If you are over 50 and wishing to date men or women younger than you or of your own age – you better know the principles and safety rules of the game! Over 50 dating can be a rejuvenating experience for those who have crossed over from physical youth to youthfulness in spirit! And if you are single, over 50 dating rendezvous can be a steamy and satiating affair – both for the heart as well as the brain!

However, with the innumerable online over 50 dating sites popping up over the web, is it safe to indulge in the way you did when you were young? It is, given that you comply with some of the set standards of over 50 dating precautions.

First, identify the typeset of a partner you want. If you want a laid-back, charming man in whose arms you would feel comforted and safe – choose so. If you want men who are potential Casanovas and wittily endearing, it’s fine again.

However, stay away from men who are overtly sexual in their approach, or show sign of aggression or dominating nature within first few weeks of contact. If you feel threatened in any way, sever the relationship, rather than crying over spilt milk later.

Secondly, stay aware – of your surroundings & your partner. Once you are off on a date, make sure that it is in a public place or restaurant/bar that your family and friends know about. Better still, have a couple of your friends around the place you are going on a date, especially if it is someone you only know through online dating portals and chat-rooms.

Finally, make sure that the guy or girl you have started dating is not into a habitual online dating portal scanner. If he/she is, chances are that he/she may leave you for someone chanced upon in the same online dating site that you guys had used to ignite your romance!

Have all these precautionary mature dating measures check-listed and you will be enjoying your day out in the sun, with your potential life partner by your side, to the fullest!
over 50’s dating

over fifty dating

Food, guaranteed to be a winner. Keep it simple. No messy spaghetti

Food is part of a time honoured traditional dating activity that never fails to impress.  A good tip is to go somewhere you’ve been before, good food, good wine, good service, eating out can be a “delicious dating experience”.

Be relaxed, be yourself, always be prepared to talk and listen. Expectations can be high; don’t set yourself up for a fall it’s only one date! It’s important to remember what a date is for, getting to know the other person. If first date nerves do kick in, try not to rely too much on alcohol. Nerves can magnify the effects of alcohol; you may get drunk that bit quicker. Alcohol can make you a believer, of almost anything; suddenly you’re saying, doing and feeling things that you wouldn’t normally do, be feel or say.

Having a dessert, or sharing a dessert isn’t off limits though, eating is a sensual, pleasurable experience that’s meant to be savoured.

Good manners count, being rude to a waiter, talking too loudly, or eating with your mouth open will always fail to impress. It will put your date and other diners on edge, so stay polite.

Enjoy your date, the food, and the atmosphere; get to know  each other. Eating out is time well spent, eating “in” is for later!

Do you remember how nervous you were on your first date? Was it bravado or bluster that got you through it? Being scared silly of rejection isn’t just for the under 21’s. Fear is a constant, it’s how you react to it that’s key.”Brave People” are the ones that get on with it, they decide that fear is to heavy, they go on dates, put their focus on other people and have a bit of fun. Doing dating is a confidence booster if you have the right tools.

Dating just for fun, lose your fear, don’t expect too much too soon. Be curious about your date; think of all the other experiences you have had, (some good some bad) think of what you might be missing if you don’t enter into the dating arena.

Every beautiful female, and all the manly studs, must have had some doubts at some time.

Confidence isn’t just about being good looking, smooth, intelligent etc… It’s about having a belief system; just believing you are confident is the first step in achieving confidence. Makes you think. Try the following (it works)

• Firm Handshake (Females Included) don’t crush it, or touch it too lightly. A hand held out in friendship sends a message to the recipient. It tells them you are engaging, unafraid, an equal. It works in both a business and personal setting.
• Make eye contact. Eyes are the windows to the soul, what a great cliché. Willingness to meet someone else’s gaze puts you on an equal footing.
• Stand tall, posture counts, a straight back denotes purpose and strength.
• Smile, it convinces people that you are healthy and happy. Frowning is aging!

It’s okay to feel apprehensive on your first date, make sure the adrenalin rush works for you, it is more than likely you have been in this situation before, and survived, what’s the worse thing that can happen? Confidence is that quiet inner voice that controls the more obvious outer show.

You may be on an over 50 dating site but many of us forget the basics like how to give a compliment.

Try to be sincere; the key is to mean what you say. For instance, if you practise sincerity in front of the mirror are you being sincere? To be truly sincere you should focus on the person that you desire and believe what it is you’re saying.

Keep it reasonable and stay away from body parts below the neck and above the ankles. This applies to both sexes!

Women love to be complimented on their:

Hair:   Women spend lots of time and copious amounts of money on their hair, and they love their efforts to be noticed.

Eyes:   are another favourite, just noticing those baby blues, gorgeous greens or soulful browns will give you lots of kudos amongst the ladies.

Smile:   Women love to hear they have a gorgeous, warm, engaging or friendly smile. It makes the effort of smiling in the first place, worthwhile.

Teeth:  Not as popular as the first three, could cause an iffy moment if their not the recipients own!

Neck:  Long and slender, unless it’s as thick as your average rugby player, you could comment on skin instead unless she’s wearing a low cut top.

Hair:   If hair is thick, shiny, and wavy with a nice cut and an attractive colour it’s a pretty safe compliment. On the other hand try not to mention the receding hairline, bald spot or dandruff. It could be quite a sensitive topic for them…

Eyes: Blue green or black, all gods’ children love to hear that they have nice eyes. Avoid sexy until at least the third date!

Smile:  Charming, handsome, alluring, men love this kind of praise.

Socks and Ties, some men take a long time choosing both, stun….and impress with your observation skills. However lifting his trouser legs to check them out is perhaps a bit personal for a first date.

When writing your online dating profile, always check, double check and then get a friend to check your grammar and spelling. Nothing will make you look more like a pillock than misspelled words and dodgy grammar. Some people (me for instance) judge you on how witty, precise and well laid out your dating profile is. OK, I am a lot more anal about this than you would normally find but I am not alone.

The best way to do a online dating profile is to use Microsoft word. Word (as you know) has a spell checker (how do you switch from USA to UK?) to help you out.

Dating as a mature woman can be quite daunting simply because you know far about life than you did when you were twenty one and you find yourself becoming more choosy. The thing is that your ambitions are totally different from when you were dating in your early twenties and so you need a partner who shares the same aspirations and views as you do. The only problem is finding the perfect man without the pubbing and clubbing scene. Even then, what sort of guy is likely to be propping up a bar at his age?

Online dating offer an easy and fun way to hand pick a man that meets your criteria. Here are the three top reasons for consideration –

• Online dating begins in the safety and comfort of your own home and there is no need to worry about going out to find men, especially if you are a single mature woman with married friends.
• You can create a profile that tells a potential date, all about you. Always be as honest as you can and give your true age with a recent photo. Detail all of your interests and dislikes including smoking for instance. Hopefully, you will only get replies from men with similar views and interests.
• You can emails over a extended period and really get a feel for your potential date before making any commitment to meet. Once you do decide to meet, it can take away the awkwardness because you already know what you have in common.

Whilst online dating will take the leg work out dating it can be open to abuse by conmen who prey on vulnerable women, so it is always very important not to give away too much personal information on line.

Men. How to write a great online dating profile

To write a great online dating profile then consider this chaps-

• Who you are?

Self-awareness is a very valuable tool, if you don’t know who you are, then how can your   potential dates be expected to?  They could always guess!  I guess, So figure it out, your likes and dislikes, strengths and weakness’s, tastes in music, food, travel etc….  Do an inventory, if you’re a sensitive soul, say so… The truth is self awareness brings action and power to the dating game, without it the potential for fun can be missed.

• Where are you psychologically?

Are you in a good place emotionally? Or are you feeling sad, lonely and blue, because, Gill suddenly decides she just wants to be just good friends?  Giving yourself time out can be rewarding. Learning to enjoy your own company and rediscovering the old you, without interruption, can be a positive experience. When not to begin dating will be personal to you, several pitfalls to avoid would be:

• Your Married
• You’ve lost your job
• You’ve lost a parent, good friend, dog
• You’re lost
• You’re still involved ( or not moved on)
• You’ve been divorced for less than a year (give yourself that space)
• You’ve lost your house

• Be honest.

Be honest, be precise, and be specific. If you only have one chance to write on line, write it on paper first. Take the above into account and use it. Don’t allow yourself to trot out the usual trite phrases, “enjoy nights in” of course you do, most of us do in the UK especially in winter! Rather use the space to be slightly more inventive, eye catching without being dishonest. If your 5ft 8” and enjoy train spotting, don’t pretend to be 6ft 1” and an aerodynamic engineer, you will be found out. It also won’t help you to find the person who will accept you for who you are.

• Have a recent easily identifiable photo

The number of responses, increase dramatically with a good photograph. Use a fairly recent photo. Avoid old photo’s that no longer represent the person you are now, it doesn’t pay to have a discrepancy between the picture and what you really look like.  Don’t have your “significant x” on it! It is really off putting to a potential date, also props like big cars, motorbikes, it is much nicer if you are just you.

• Check Spelling and Punctuation

Spell-check your ad. Correct grammar and punctuation.  It’s easier than you think, Word will auto correct your spellings, if you can, get a friend to proofread. Even if this is all on the QT it pays to get it looking right.

• Avoid misunderstandings when describing yourself.

Unless you can make eye contact with your potential date, the idea of describing yourself as hunky, with a good sense of humour, is fraught with difficulties; nobody knows how somebody else will interpret something as personal, as looks or humour! For example some of my friends think I’m witty… my children and partner think I’m too caustic!  Big difference. Somebody somewhere must find Mr Bean funny, I for one find him embarrassing Make sure what you’re saying is what your described and representative of you.

• Don’t make a dating profile toooo long.

We all know women get easily get bored especially when something boring like the world cup final is on! So keep it short, to the point, and above all keep them wanting more

over 50’s dating
over fifty dating

Writing a dating profile can be compared to writing a CV. They are both resumes after all.  There are many sites offering to write, or re-write your CV’s but not many to help you write a dating profile. A thoroughly modern online dating profile works best when you consider -;

• Who you are?

Self-awareness is a very valuable tool, if you don’t know who you are, then how can your   potential dates be expected to?  They could always guess!  I guess, So figure it out, your likes and dislikes, strengths and weakness’s, tastes in music, food, travel etc….  Do an inventory, if you’re a sensitive soul, say so… The truth is self awareness brings action and power to the dating game, without it the potential for fun can be missed.

• Where are you psychologically?

Are you in a good place emotionally? Or are you feeling sad, lonely and blue, because, Jack just hit the road?  Giving yourself time out can be rewarding. Learning to enjoy your own company and rediscovering the old you, without interruption, can be a positive experience. When not to begin dating will be personal to you, several pitfalls to avoid would be:

• Your Married
• You’ve lost your job
• You’ve lost a parent, good friend, dog
• You’re lost
• You’re still involved ( or not moved on)
• You’ve been divorced for less than a year (give yourself that space)
• You’ve lost your house

• Be honest.

Be honest, be precise, and be specific. If you only have one chance to write on line, write it on paper first. Take the above into account and use it. Don’t allow yourself to trot out the usual trite phrases, “enjoy nights in” of course you do, most of us do in the UK especially in winter! Rather use the space to be slightly more inventive, eye catching without being dishonest. If your 5ft 2” and enjoy browsing for antiques, don’t be tempted to say your 5ft 5” and an expert in antiquities, you will be found out. It also won’t help you to find the person who will accept you for who you are.

• Have a recent easily identifiable photo

The number of responses, increase dramatically with a good photograph. Use a fairly recent photo. Avoid unusually flattering, glamour shots; it doesn’t pay to have a discrepancy between the picture and what you really look like.  Don’t have your “significant x” on it! It is really off putting to a potential date, also props like, your cute dog, cats, nieces, nephews, this photo should be about you, a good head shot would be nice.

• Check Spelling and Punctuation

Spell-check your ad. Correct grammar and punctuation.  It’s easier than you think, Word will auto correct your spellings, if you can, get a friend to proofread. Even if this is all on the QT it pays to get it looking right.

• Avoid misunderstandings

Unless you can make eye contact with your potential date, the idea of describing yourself as sexy can be fraught with misunderstanding; Nobody knows how somebody else will interpret something as personal, as humour, or sexiness! For example some of my friends think I’m witty… my children and partner think I’m too caustic!  Big difference. Humour and innuendo are intended to soften, lighten, and divert.  Make sure what your saying makes sense.

• Don’t make a dating profile toooo long.

We all know men easily get bored! On line shopping for them is fun. Their attention can wander pretty quickly. So keep it short, keep to the point, and above all keep them wanting more

over 50’s dating
over fifty dating

Online dating is in our opinion the best way to meet eligable people who share your interests and ambitions. Every year, nearly one hundred thousand people of all ages get married as a direct result of joining an online dating site. Online dating like any dating has a small element of unsavoury people participating hence this advice.

Essential Online Dating Safety Tips

Trust Your Intuition
Your intuition is a powerful tool for knowing when something doesn’t feel quite right. As you read dating profiles, responses to your email messages, have telephone conversations, and meet in person your intuition will help tell you if something is right or wrong. Online dating gives you numerous opportunities to date and so don’t take any chances if something feels wrong.

Don’t Provide Too Much Personal Detail Too Soon
Your home telephone number and your full name will provide an easy way to discover who you are and your address. Armed with your christian and surname, a person can do online searches to potentially discover, where you work and what you do

Use a Free Email Account
Sign up for a free Yahoo!, Hotmail, or Gmail email account that is just for online dating. Never put your complete name in the ‘From’ field – only your first name or something else entirely. My current partner started out with a false name before we decided to meet. This strategy protects you from a person being able to use your usual email address to find out more information about you.

Use a Mobile Phone to Chat
When you decide to chat in person rather than online chat or email, never give out your home phone number. It’s just an added protection until you get to know the person better and build some trust.

Beware of Married Men
It’s unfortunate, but some married men do use online dating services. It’s pretty obvious that they are interested in sex or embroiling you in something you probably don’t need.

Look for Unpleasant Characteristics
As you talk via email and on the phone you may be able to start to pick out some characteristics of the other person. Do they seem to get angry easily? Do they avoid answering some of your questions? Are they controlling? These can be the unpleasant characteristics that tell you this may not be the person for you.

Request a Recent Photo
There’s nothing impolite in asking someone if their photograph’s are recent. If they don’t have a photo then perhaps this is a married person!.  Also, if they tell you the photograph is recent and you meet and see a much older person, then you’ll know the person lied and you can cut the date short if you wish.

Stick to Paid Online Dating
Free online dating services provide a greater opportunity for potentially unsavoury individuals. They don’t need to provide a credit card or any other varifiable information that identifies them. With paid online dating you get what you pay for  including added safety.

Try to Meet in a Public Place.

When it’s time to arrange your first face to face meeting, agree to meet in a public place and provide your own transport. Your first meeting will tell you a lot about the other person, including whether or not they lied in their profile. Never accept an offer to be picked up at your house. Make sure that a friend or relative knows where you are, who you are with and what time you expect to get home. Why not get them to give you a call? You could use this as your excuse to exit if you wish.

Online dating is in our opinion the best way to meet eligable people who share your interests and ambitions. Every year, nearly one hundred thousand people of all ages get married as a direct result of joining an online dating site. Online dating like any dating has a small element of unsavoury people participating hence this advice.

Essential Online Dating Safety Tips

Trust Your Intuition
Your intuition is a powerful tool for knowing when something doesn’t feel quite right. As you read dating profiles, responses to your email messages, have telephone conversations, and meet in person your intuition will help tell you if something is right or wrong. Online dating gives you numerous opportunities to date and so don’t take any chances if something feels wrong.

Don’t Provide Too Much Personal Detail Too Soon
Your home telephone number and your full name will provide an easy way to discover who you are and your address. Armed with your christian and surname, a person can do online searches to potentially discover, where you work and what you do

Use a Free Email Account
Sign up for a free Yahoo!, Hotmail, or Gmail email account that is just for online dating. Never put your complete name in the ‘From’ field – only your first name or something else entirely. My current partner started out with a false name before we decided to meet. This strategy protects you from a person being able to use your usual email address to find out more information about you.

Use a Mobile Phone to Chat
When you decide to chat in person rather than online chat or email, never give out your home phone number. It’s just an added protection until you get to know the person better and build some trust.

Beware of Married Men
It’s unfortunate, but some married men do use online dating services. It’s pretty obvious that they are interested in sex or embroiling you in something you probably don’t need.

Look for Unpleasant Characteristics
As you talk via email and on the phone you may be able to start to pick out some characteristics of the other person. Do they seem to get angry easily? Do they avoid answering some of your questions? Are they controlling? These can be the unpleasant characteristics that tell you this may not be the person for you.

Request a Recent Photo
There’s nothing impolite in asking someone if their photograph’s are recent. If they don’t have a photo then perhaps this is a married person!.  Also, if they tell you the photograph is recent and you meet and see a much older person, then you’ll know the person lied and you can cut the date short if you wish.

Stick to Paid Online Dating
Free online dating services provide a greater opportunity for potentially unsavoury individuals. They don’t need to provide a credit card or any other varifiable information that identifies them. With paid online dating you get what you pay for  including added safety.

Try to Meet in a Public Place.

When it’s time to arrange your first face to face meeting, agree to meet in a public place and provide your own transport. Your first meeting will tell you a lot about the other person, including whether or not they lied in their profile. Never accept an offer to be picked up at your house. Make sure that a friend or relative knows where you are, who you are with and what time you expect to get home. Why not get them to give you a call? You could use this as your excuse to exit if you wish.

over 50’s dating
over fifty dating