A flirt is almost never single – and if he/she is, it is of choice rather than chance! So, if you are over 50 and wish to be a player in the game of love- start by learning how to flirt. Now we know that flirting is an art and it only comes naturally, but a few tips to do it better (and to do it, for novices) for over 50 dating sojourns can never it, can they?! Here are 5 tips for flirting with aplomb while on an over 50 dating spree!

1. Break the ‘touch’-screen – Touching can be one of the most sensitive and yet the most warming of subjects in a date. Irrespective of whether you are on your first date or your twentieth, keep touching her subtly and in a romantic way. This is very tricky – Do it more than necessary and you are a pervert; do it less than what she’s comfortable with, and you end up as a bore! Balance is the key here (as it is probably throughout any over 50 date)!

1. Make her/him laugh – Do not keep serious just because you are on the wrong side of 50! Laugh and have fun like you did during your teenage years on a date. Remember, no one likes a sadist or a bore. So make yourself comfortable and make her laugh, even with the old jokes told in a novel way. Stay away from the dirty ones till you haven’t understood your date enough.

1. Compliments are the key – Keep complimenting your date, even if he/she is not particularly well-dressed for your liking. Remember, she might not look gorgeous today, but that doesn’t stop her from looking awesome the next if she is seriously pretty. So hold your patience and learn to keep her flattered!

1. Body Language matters – Make sure you follow her moves (DON’T STARE!) and duplicate the same subtly. This makes her more comfortable (like both of you putting your elbows on the table), and opens her up for love to make it’s way through!

1. Don’t be too perfect in the art – Don’t let it seem practiced or too perfect. This may have two negative consequences – one, she may mistake you for a Casanova or she may mistake your flirtatiousness for being too eager to be in bed with her. Both – are disastrous for a date. Try and be naïve and genuine in your PDA, and try and not be cocky.

These tips may effectively make you a great flirt – but remember- anything remotely obscene or dirty in your mannerisms and you will be out of the dating recce as fast as you had entered it! Caution is the key in every over mature dating episode. And once you know you guys are in love, throw it to the winds!

Over 50 dating is fun; one of the first rules is to have and keep your sense of humour. It is one of the most important things you can bring to relationship. If you go for looks, status or even a specific personality then eventually you could be disappointed. Looks fade, status may disappear, personality’s change, but someone with a great sense of humour which endures even when everything else has gone is worth their weight in gold. Dating someone who has the ability to make you laugh is priceless. Over 50 dating sites are similar to an estate agents window or auto trader, first you look at the photographs, then you read the description…. Sometimes the descriptions can be flawed and the photographs a little misleading. Not so with a sense of humour, you cannot pretend to have a sense of humour you just have! How attractive is that person (regardless of their looks) you’re almost guaranteed to fancy them. So next time you date someone because they have gorgeous legs, or sexy eyes, or a lovely smile. Don’t be fooled straight away Date the guy or gal that makes you laugh remember the old song “make em laugh, make em laugh”  see if they can tickle your sense of humour buds first. If you are on the over mature dating scene then you have enough life stories to make anybody laugh!

There are plenty of reasons for people to join an over 50 dating site. With mature dating getting popular, people are finding a solution to bring back enjoyment in their retired and lonely life. Most people join over 50 dating sites as this is the easiest way to meet some one of your choice from among the unlimited options available.

Often, they allured by their friends who are pretty much actively involved and are members of online dating sites. The excitement of meeting some one new and interesting in the second innings on your mature dating ball game can be unavoidable sometimes.

It isn’t always easy to step into the dating arena after you have lived nearly half your life. Your grown up children may not approve it, you may be shy to go on an open quest to find your mature dating partner or might doubt your chances of finding one for your self. Online dating sites are just the right place for you to visit.

Knowing someone sharing the same interest as you do without having the fear of being embarrassed, so many profile to choose from whenever you want is what is makes online dating sites most fascinating for people interested in over 50 dating.

Online dating no longer bears the stigma of lazy and useless activity but has become the necessity of the busy city life. It is difficult to visit pubs, bars and discos in search of your soul mate, especially if you are searching for some one interested in mature dating. Moreover finding your over 50 dating partner offline make take its toll both on your money and energy leaving you frustrated if you fail to get your dream mate.
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Such an interesting thing at your hands, why choose something else to bring your over 50dating endavours to success?

Whats the difference between mature dating and over 50 dating? At least over 50 dating is precise whereas mature dating requires a view to be taken. If we called it ‘middle aged dating’ then life becomes a bit easier because the accepted definition is that middle age starts at 55 years old. For me the word ‘mature’ means dull, past it, over the hill, sensible, tyre kicking and boring. Thats why I hope to remain in peter pan mode and stay a million miles away from ‘mature’. Don’t get me wrong, I am neither feckless or senseless. I just hate the connotations that ‘mature dating’ brings hence my decision for an over 50 dating site.

Here are my top ten dating ideas. Best used when the other person has had  a sheltered life and needs taking out of their comfort zone.

1. Goat herding
2. Whitewash a fence
3. Rat swinging
4. Swap clothes
5. Cardigan knitting
6. Pay and display weekend
7. Photograph park benches
8. Airport carousel observation
9. Air guitar convention
10. Kill time

Thats my top ten over 50 dating ideas. Mature dating! What fun

So what is the over 50 dating bonus? It’s the fact that my beautiful partner (found on the internet) has a really interesting and nice family. Me? I had to grow my own family because of a deficit of sisters, brothers, aunts and uncles. Now my kids are amazing and it’s lovely that Linda really likes them too as I do her boys and sister’s who have made me feel very welcome. One son of Linda’s did the London Marathon today for the first time to raise money for a miscarriage charity. All this with a swollen ankle, damaged a couple of weeks ago. Yesterday I was playing ‘chocolate bingo’ with Linda’s seven year old neice at her school. So now, I have an extended family to look forward to being with as well as my own dear mum and children.   That’s the over 50 dating bonus I am talking about.

I guess the easiest way of rejecting your date is at arm’s length on the telephone. Unfortunately to set this up you probably have to lie on the previous date with a ‘call me and we will arrange something’ exit line.

The best way to do this is to cut down on the body language such as preening, touching and standing in a close proximity. Most people are great at reading signs like this and may well get the hint.

If they don’t get the hint then you may need to spell it out. Do this in a low a key as possible and consider turning on its head. What I mean is “it’s been lovely meeting you but I don’t think I am the person for you. I’ll exit now and leave the field open for Mr/Mrs right.

Never, never tell them they are too fat, short, stupid or bald. Personal comments are entirely unnecessary as the person has done nothing wrong apart from not being your type.

Similarly, do not get into answering twenty questions about precisely why they are not the right person for you. This is at best a dead end and at worst the precursor to a ugly situation that could have been avoided.

Here’s a list of quotes you never, never use with a man when dating at 50 or any other age-

I would like you to meet my parents (suicide at the end of the first date)

I would love to spend every waking minute with you (so that’s the football and pub gone then)

You make great husband material (no I don’t. I want to be a sex god)

You could work and I will look after the house (that’s early retirement gone then)

Do I look fat in this? (Park your fantasies and let’s get down to reality)

How much do you love me? (Not enough to stop being scared. The net is tightening)

Men are like fish. Tickle them and entice them into the net. Do not club them like arctic seal.

Do you remember how nervous you were on your first date? Was it bravado or bluster that got you through it? Being scared silly of rejection isn’t just for the under 21’s. Fear is a constant, it’s how you react to it that’s key.”Brave People” are the ones that get on with it, they decide that fear is to heavy, they go on dates, put their focus on other people and have a bit of fun. Doing dating is a confidence booster if you have the right tools.

Dating just for fun, lose your fear, don’t expect too much too soon. Be curious about your date; think of all the other experiences you have had, (some good some bad) think of what you might be missing if you don’t enter into the dating arena.

Every beautiful female, and all the manly studs, must have had some doubts at some time.

Confidence isn’t just about being good looking, smooth, intelligent etc… It’s about having a belief system; just believing you are confident is the first step in achieving confidence. Makes you think. Try the following (it works)

• Firm Handshake (Females Included) don’t crush it, or touch it too lightly. A hand held out in friendship sends a message to the recipient. It tells them you are engaging, unafraid, an equal. It works in both a business and personal setting.
• Make eye contact. Eyes are the windows to the soul, what a great cliché. Willingness to meet someone else’s gaze puts you on an equal footing.
• Stand tall, posture counts, a straight back denotes purpose and strength.
• Smile, it convinces people that you are healthy and happy. Frowning is aging!

It’s okay to feel apprehensive on your first date, make sure the adrenalin rush works for you, it is more than likely you have been in this situation before, and survived, what’s the worse thing that can happen? Confidence is that quiet inner voice that controls the more obvious outer show.

Over 50 and expecting the worse?

So here I am with my new partner and as happy as can be. We hit it off completely and are chalk and cheese to our previous partners. I for instance, take pride in looking after myself, cooking, cleaning whatever. I simply have never believed that its a womans place to do this stuff. Its a shared duty and quite frankly I enjoy doing my bit (particularly the cooking. Now my partners previous and her son believe that its a womans place to tidy up their rubbish and this preys on her mind as if I am going to change my outlook and become more of what she knew previously. I on the other hand love the fact she loves my kids but often venture into the past to talk about how this wasn’t always the case with my ex.