If you are over 50 and wishing to date men or women younger than you or of your own age – you better know the principles and safety rules of the game! Over 50 dating can be a rejuvenating experience for those who have crossed over from physical youth to youthfulness in spirit! And if you are single, over 50 dating rendezvous can be a steamy and satiating affair – both for the heart as well as the brain!

However, with the innumerable online over 50 dating sites popping up over the web, is it safe to indulge in the way you did when you were young? It is, given that you comply with some of the set standards of over 50 dating precautions.

First, identify the typeset of a partner you want. If you want a laid-back, charming man in whose arms you would feel comforted and safe – choose so. If you want men who are potential Casanovas and wittily endearing, it’s fine again.

However, stay away from men who are overtly sexual in their approach, or show sign of aggression or dominating nature within first few weeks of contact. If you feel threatened in any way, sever the relationship, rather than crying over spilt milk later.

Secondly, stay aware – of your surroundings & your partner. Once you are off on a date, make sure that it is in a public place or restaurant/bar that your family and friends know about. Better still, have a couple of your friends around the place you are going on a date, especially if it is someone you only know through online dating portals and chat-rooms.

Finally, make sure that the guy or girl you have started dating is not into a habitual online dating portal scanner. If he/she is, chances are that he/she may leave you for someone chanced upon in the same online dating site that you guys had used to ignite your romance!

Have all these precautionary measures check-listed and you will be enjoying your day out in the sun, with your potential life partner by your side, to the fullest!

There are plenty of reasons for people to join an over 50 dating site. With mature dating getting popular, people are finding a solution to bring back enjoyment in their retired and lonely life. Most people join over 50 dating sites as this is the easiest way to meet some one of your choice from among the unlimited options available.

Often, they allured by their friends who are pretty much actively involved and are members of online dating sites. The excitement of meeting some one new and interesting in the second innings on your mature dating ball game can be unavoidable sometimes.

It isn’t always easy to step into the dating arena after you have lived nearly half your life. Your grown up children may not approve it, you may be shy to go on an open quest to find your mature dating partner or might doubt your chances of finding one for your self. Online dating sites are just the right place for you to visit.

Knowing someone sharing the same interest as you do without having the fear of being embarrassed, so many profile to choose from whenever you want is what is makes online dating sites most fascinating for people interested in over 50 dating.

Online dating no longer bears the stigma of lazy and useless activity but has become the necessity of the busy city life. It is difficult to visit pubs, bars and discos in search of your soul mate, especially if you are searching for some one interested in mature dating. Moreover finding your over 50 dating partner offline make take its toll both on your money and energy leaving you frustrated if you fail to get your dream mate.

Such an interesting thing at your hands, why choose something else to bring your over 50dating endavours to success?

I guess the easiest way of rejecting your date is at arm’s length on the telephone. Unfortunately to set this up you probably have to lie on the previous date with a ‘call me and we will arrange something’ exit line.

The best way to do this is to cut down on the body language such as preening, touching and standing in a close proximity. Most people are great at reading signs like this and may well get the hint.

If they don’t get the hint then you may need to spell it out. Do this in a low a key as possible and consider turning on its head. What I mean is “it’s been lovely meeting you but I don’t think I am the person for you. I’ll exit now and leave the field open for Mr/Mrs right.

Never, never tell them they are too fat, short, stupid or bald. Personal comments are entirely unnecessary as the person has done nothing wrong apart from not being your type.

Similarly, do not get into answering twenty questions about precisely why they are not the right person for you. This is at best a dead end and at worst the precursor to a ugly situation that could have been avoided.

Of all of the things that you can do for that special someone, here are the five most common,
1) Doing things for each other – helping out, doing the washing, getting the shopping, cooking meals. (One for the girlies, chaps)

2) Positive words – saying sweet nothings and words of love.

3) Physical contact – cuddles, hand-holding, kisses, massages etc.

4) Spending quality time together – holidays, walks, sports, hobbies, common interests.

5) Gifts – Chocolates, flowers, surprise presents.

Did you think that great sex would be at the top of the list? Well great sex is a wonderful thing; if the sex is great then the relationship must be too? Many people mistake lust for love, libido in that case can be short lived, pardon the pun! So at the top of my list is doing things for each other, sharing the chores is an integral part of showing your partner that you really do care.

Positive words… Negative communication can damage confidence levels within a relationship; this then leads to doubt and mistrust. On the other hand, positive words often create a pleasant relaxed environment, conducive to love, a situation worth striving for.

You can tell when someone really hates you. They sneer and glower and avoid your company. It’s a bit different with dating as it’s more often a slow process of disconnection beit date one or date three. Sure signs are lack of eye contact, sullenness with little verbal interaction, focusing on themselves or physically with bad body language. Read the signs and don’t go flogging a dead horse.

When writing your online dating profile, always check, double check and then get a friend to check your grammar and spelling. Nothing will make you look more like a pillock than misspelled words and dodgy grammar. Some people (me for instance) judge you on how witty, precise and well laid out your dating profile is. OK, I am a lot more anal about this than you would normally find but I am not alone.

The best way to do a online dating profile is to use Microsoft word. Word (as you know) has a spell checker (how do you switch from USA to UK?) to help you out.

Dating, reasonable expectations equal good outcomes.

Did you hear about the one who got away? Or was it you that ran away?  The great thing about dating is that isn’t compulsory. You do not have to do it; if you do, then it usually involves a massive leap of faith.  We’ve all heard the tale about the sex kitten that turned out to be a cat; the gorgeous guy form the coca cola adds who turned out to be Mr Bean! Let’s be clear about this, people tell fibs! Me included, I lied about my age, (well it’s a woman’s prerogative isn’t it)?  If you go on a date and decide in an instant that this girl/guy isn’t in any way shape or form, second date material, at least be kind. Walk a mile in their shoes; they probably have very worn soles.  At the very least a drink, a kind word and a bit of banter. You both have online dating in common after all. You will probably gain a friend, a regular online chat, even if it’s hello, how are you, any more dates lined up?  Expectations are sometimes too high; we can behave badly when disappointed. Remember your best friend was once a stranger too

To be avoided at all costs and fraught with potential disaster is the scatter brained idea of talking about your past sexual experiences. Sex feels good for two people whereas talking about past sexual conquests only sounds good for the storyteller. Talking about your ex will add nothing to your future relationship believe me. What exactly is the upside? You will sound either like a sex maniac or a vestal virgin. Your partner will think your motive is to get them to perform to the same level as your ex. Maybe they will be put off by the idea that you blab about stuff or that you compare mental notes after each session. There is absolutely no upside to talking about your past sexual behaviour unless it’s to a Priest or a Psychiatrist.

Over 50 dating or not, first impressions still count.

Mutton dressed as Lamb? No thanks

Dirty or scuffed shoes? No thanks

Cheap wig? No thanks

Roots showing? No thanks

Dirty or chipped nails? No thanks

Makeup like Polyfilla? No thanks

Being an adult and in a relationship means taking people for what they are, warts and all. Ask yourself these questions and answer honestly. You may find that you are your own worst enemy when it comes to hanging on to the men or women in your life.

Do I accept that my potential partner/friend is not like me?

Do I apply the same moral standards to them as I do to myself

Do I have the time to do justice to a relationship?

Am I able and willing to be my true self?

Am I able to show vulnerability and reveal my true feelings?

Is there a reason I like this person beyond the fact that they like me?

If the answer to any of the above is negative then perhaps a reconsideration of your attitudes would bear fruit and make for happier times ahead.