There are plenty of reasons for people to join an over 50 dating site. With mature dating getting popular, people are finding a solution to bring back enjoyment in their retired and lonely life. Most people join over 50 dating sites as this is the easiest way to meet some one of your choice from among the unlimited options available.

Often, they allured by their friends who are pretty much actively involved and are members of online dating sites. The excitement of meeting some one new and interesting in the second innings on your mature dating ball game can be unavoidable sometimes.

It isn’t always easy to step into the dating arena after you have lived nearly half your life. Your grown up children may not approve it, you may be shy to go on an open quest to find your mature dating partner or might doubt your chances of finding one for your self. Online dating sites are just the right place for you to visit.

Knowing someone sharing the same interest as you do without having the fear of being embarrassed, so many profile to choose from whenever you want is what is makes online dating sites most fascinating for people interested in over 50 dating.

Online dating no longer bears the stigma of lazy and useless activity but has become the necessity of the busy city life. It is difficult to visit pubs, bars and discos in search of your soul mate, especially if you are searching for some one interested in mature dating. Moreover finding your over 50 dating partner offline make take its toll both on your money and energy leaving you frustrated if you fail to get your dream mate.

Such an interesting thing at your hands, why choose something else to bring your over 50dating endavours to success?

It is so tempting to re-invent yourself when dating on the internet. When you meet your date how easy is it to try and be someone you think they are looking for. You might think your date would approve if you become sophisticated? Or maybe a little mysterious? It is a tough call, to keep  a pretence up for longer than a week or two, possibly  a month at the longest.

If you think your date is  “the one” then you might be spending the next half century or so with them. Could you imagine that 50 years of pretending. Would you really want a lifetime of pretence? Changing some of your behaviour for the better is always a good thing, but changing your basic personality is nigh on impossible. So be you, get it all out in the open now. If that’s not what your date is looking for at least you won’t get in to deep. Some people don’t actually like sophistication, or mystery, they’ll maybe love your for an upfront sense of humour, some people like to be needed and do a bit of looking after. Horses for courses. Somewhere out there is someone who wants you, dating is the perfect and possibly the only way to find that special someone. Remember you are unique.

Internet dating involves a massive leap of faith. Using positive language (initially whilst chatting on line) has a huge effect on the people you’re chatting to. People feel energised when listening to positive conversation. You’ll be a magnet for further chats on the dating site and, will increase your chances of going out on a date quite significantly. Make a list of all negative words and phrases you would use routinely in a day. Then work out positive phrases to replace the negative ones with. For example

God I’m so bored… With…………I’m going to find something different to do today.

The traffic was a bloody nightmare….With….What an eventful trip.

I’m absolutely dreading this…With….I just can’t wait to have a go.

I’m useless…….With…….. I’m determined to get this right.

This is a problem…..With……I’m trying to work this out.

I hate that………….With……Maybe it’s an acquired taste?

It’s easy to turn a negative into a positive, it just requires practise. Positive language can have a dramatic impact on your dating success. Language makes a significant difference to how you view something or someone; this in turn can impact on how your prospective dates will view you. Choose your words carefully and you will become more interesting to people you want to impress. Ditch the negative, dance with the positive, date the people you are impressed with.

You must have noticed that rather luscious guy/girl on you dating site? The combination of a good picture and an interesting profile is positively captivating. So what to do to get that date? Don’t forget that people expect to be approached on a dating site; it is a socially interactive environment. Key to catching someone’s attention is to have a bit of a flirt. If it’s a lady making the running, men are usually so delighted that you can say almost anything! (Well within reason)

Hi, I’m looking for a friendly face to chat to and yours fits the bill. Words and humour are really important on a dating site. Try to tailor your advance to the style of ad that they’ve written and use similar themes. It’s really simple, if she has asked for a sun loving beach bum that enjoys building sandcastles and sky diving, then your response could be: sun tan lotion, bucket and spade, plus spare parachute. Corny I know but really effective. It works for two reasons, (a) you have made the effort to read the profile and (b) you have added humour to the mix, so brownie points for both.  To reveal something personal about yourself allows the person you are chatting to respond in kind. This will give you something to chat about on your first date. . Often leading to a second date ad infinitum……..

I guess the easiest way of rejecting your date is at arm’s length on the telephone. Unfortunately to set this up you probably have to lie on the previous date with a ‘call me and we will arrange something’ exit line.

The best way to do this is to cut down on the body language such as preening, touching and standing in a close proximity. Most people are great at reading signs like this and may well get the hint.

If they don’t get the hint then you may need to spell it out. Do this in a low a key as possible and consider turning on its head. What I mean is “it’s been lovely meeting you but I don’t think I am the person for you. I’ll exit now and leave the field open for Mr/Mrs right.

Never, never tell them they are too fat, short, stupid or bald. Personal comments are entirely unnecessary as the person has done nothing wrong apart from not being your type.

Similarly, do not get into answering twenty questions about precisely why they are not the right person for you. This is at best a dead end and at worst the precursor to a ugly situation that could have been avoided.

The wrong venue for a first date

The first thing to say is that first dates are best in the daylight, somewhere neutral and for a short time only so you both have a get out. If you have neen speaking online for sometime and feel confident enough to be more expansive then still try to avoid –

• Restaurants where you can’t pronounce the items on the menu.
• Restaurants that serve up animals only seen in zoos
• Restaurants where unless you are known make you sit next to the toilet or kitchen
• Anywhere that you have to shout above the music to get heard
• Your Mothers house
• The cinema
• Anywhere on a date with your ex and their new partner

The best venue for me on a first date is probably a bistro with good food lots of people and fairly quick service.

Been there, done that, got the t shirt? Not necessarily, you’re not like anybody else on the planet and neither for that matter is your date. You don’t have to follow old rules, new rules or precedents about what you want, where you want to go, or how you act.  If it’s ok with the two of you and its legal then go ahead and be creative.

This isn’t code for sex by the way, it’s about not being jaded, being original and finding the courage to act and be who you really are. You can do this individually or together. It’s much more fun together. Be willing to experiment, have a go, remember 50 and dating is the new 40 and dating.  It is amazing how interesting you can be when you follow your own heart. 50 and over is a great place to be when dating, honestly. You have probably realised (just by being here for 50 years or over) that life is full of compromises, well guess what as long as you are happy to make those compromises so be it. If you don’t want then don’t settle it really is all up to you. What most people regret in life (especially as it becomes shorter) are not the mistakes they made on the way, but the chances they didn’t take.

You may be on an over 50 dating site but many of us forget the basics like how to give a compliment.

Try to be sincere; the key is to mean what you say. For instance, if you practise sincerity in front of the mirror are you being sincere? To be truly sincere you should focus on the person that you desire and believe what it is you’re saying.

Keep it reasonable and stay away from body parts below the neck and above the ankles. This applies to both sexes!

Women love to be complimented on their:

Hair:   Women spend lots of time and copious amounts of money on their hair, and they love their efforts to be noticed.

Eyes:   are another favourite, just noticing those baby blues, gorgeous greens or soulful browns will give you lots of kudos amongst the ladies.

Smile:   Women love to hear they have a gorgeous, warm, engaging or friendly smile. It makes the effort of smiling in the first place, worthwhile.

Teeth:  Not as popular as the first three, could cause an iffy moment if their not the recipients own!

Neck:  Long and slender, unless it’s as thick as your average rugby player, you could comment on skin instead unless she’s wearing a low cut top.

Hair:   If hair is thick, shiny, and wavy with a nice cut and an attractive colour it’s a pretty safe compliment. On the other hand try not to mention the receding hairline, bald spot or dandruff. It could be quite a sensitive topic for them…

Eyes: Blue green or black, all gods’ children love to hear that they have nice eyes. Avoid sexy until at least the third date!

Smile:  Charming, handsome, alluring, men love this kind of praise.

Socks and Ties, some men take a long time choosing both, stun….and impress with your observation skills. However lifting his trouser legs to check them out is perhaps a bit personal for a first date.

First date nerves?  Where to go? What to do? First dates are never going to be a relaxing experience. It doesn’t matter how cool you are, or think you are, their is always the feeling that things could go wrong. . . so maybe a few basic guidelines won’t go amiss.

1. 1. Try to pick an activity that you both enjoy. This sets the tone, if you choose something only you like, imagine how your date may feel, struggling to stay polite, bored and disappointed?  This is a strategy that also sets the stage for something you can afford.

1. 2. Picking something you can afford and accommodating your budget, doesn’t make you a cheapskate. The dangers of throwing money around on a first date can lead your date into a false sense of (how generous you are) and if this then isn’t a constant (how cheap you are) be realistic. Also consideration needs to be taken into account re -your dates finances, spending to big may make her feel out of your league!

1. 3. Do something that doesn’t require new clothes, they are often uncomfortable and because your not used to them they may rip or gape. It is far easier to wear your happy, easy-to-wear older clothes, concentrate on being you.

1. 4. Go where you can have a proper conversation!! Easy for me to say, the worst first date is at the movies, no conversation, people shushing you, unexpected embarrassing scenes on screen. Go where you can easily chat.

1. 5. Find a local venue, Long trips, frayed nerves, bad transport links not a good idea for a first date. If you live a fair distance meets in the middle.

1. 6. Pick an activity that doesn’t involve loads of alcohol. Difficult, especially if you suffer from first night nerves. It can lead you into all kinds of tricky situations.

1. 7. Find an activity that doesn’t last for more than a coupe of hours. A good first date is usually short.  The key here is to leave “em wanting more”. If you both had a great time you will easily want date number two. If on the other hand you didn’t enjoy each other’s company, then a couple of hours are no big deal.

1. 8. Leave time to get to know each other. A date full of too much activity keeps you busy, but if the purpose of the date is a chance to get to know one another, some quiet time is a good idea. Noise and bustle is distracting.

So have fun and good luck…………